DIYers, You Only Need These Three Essential Traits (and Bieber Revisited)
The Three Essential Traits for Homeowners — A Top Three (yes, Just 3) List
Despite what was suggested in the comments of the post The Hardest Thing About Do It Yourself is, Well, Doing it Yourself — I did not intend to present that post as a dialog with myself. Of course that post may have made a bit more sense if you were aware of this post (which includes the origins of my name “jb” and why I often write it in lower case).
Again — I do not know Justin Bieber and I can neither condemn nor endorse him. My daughter simply received a life-size cutout of him . . . as a joke . . . for Christmas. In fact, I think she was a little scared of it. And I used him to help illustrate these points below.
My post from a few weeks back, The Ten Essential Tools for Homeowners ended up being pretty popular, and hey — maybe making lists isn’t such a bad thing. But as I was thinking about those “things,” you know — tools, it struck me that perhaps the most valuable “assets” for a homeowner may not be tools . . . or anything tangible for that matter. Rather, they may be only qualities or traits — and forgive me if these more specifically apply to the DIYers out there. But, check ’em; they are meant really to be all-encompassing.
The Three Essential Qualities Every Homeowner should have:
The Ability to Ask for Help (and to some degree — Access to a Helper)
Think about this — When you hire a pro to fix or install something on your house, what percentage of the time do you find two or more people actually doing the work? (This is not to mention of course that you probably also spent time with a salesperson, and maybe an estimator.) I think you’ll find that that percentage is actually pretty high. A helper not only brings an extra set of hands, but also an extra set of eyes, and we hope — an extra head. Plus, doing work is usually (I said – usually) a lot more fun when you’re doing it with someone else.
Into French and back, it translates roughly as “balls”. Around the house, and with home projects a little courage is good. This not only applies to spicy paint colors or a fiery glass and twisted chandelier, but it also applies when you are thinking about doing that . . . whatever. Moxie is the little voice that says, “Just freaking go for it!” After all, what’s the worst thing that could happen? You mess something up, spend a little early money (OK, and maybe stress) to have to undo and/or redo it. You’ll never know until you try. Right? Right. Note: A little courage too can help in your dealings with the other people involved in a project . . . suppliers, contractors, and especially, especially . . . your significant other.
A Little Enlightened You
Just as a little moxie is essential — so too is something that I call “smarts.” This manifests itself most frequently as a stop mechanism. It goes like this — “Just don’t do it, if it doesn’t feel right.” This is moxie’s counter-balance, the little voice inside you that says, “Boy, you f***ed this one up. You best stop and . . . ‘call’ someone.” This is in fact a very difficult skill to master . . . especially when you’re a fairly handy person. *ahem* It applies on the micro scale as well, and that same voice says, “This is good enough. You are finished. Put the sander down. I SAID P.U.T. it down . . . Good.” And the sooner you can add this to your arsenal, the better.
Side Bar Side Note Side Out: A Little Enlightened You has a few very important nested qualities: a. A short memory (of failure); b. A really good sense of humor, and the ability to laugh at . . . itself; c. The wisdom to know that success is not judged by anyone else other than yourself; and d. (This took a looonnnnnngg time to learn I am still learning.) Even the most skilled individual (this applies — no matter what we are talking about) needs to rip something out and start over . . . sometimes.
Thanks for reading . . . back again soon talking about both DIY & Homeownership. Cheers. ~jb
15 thoughts on “DIYers, You Only Need These Three Essential Traits (and Bieber Revisited)”
Great post, JB! Always good to be reminded of the qualities that we all need when redesiging, painting, demo-ing, or whatever!
yep . . . I guess they kinda roll up… homeownership (and doing work) and I have been learning it a lot and more recently is about using and KEEPING your head. at least with me . . . an over obsessive and sometimes impulsive individual. ha! thanks for the comment Amy hope plaster work went well this weekend (easter too if you celebrate) and ‘pologies for making you read an underedited version. happy monday.
Plaster work is next weekend…this weekend was staining :)…waiting for it to dry a bit better. It was still tacky last night. Yes, we celebrate Easter and had an awesome time followed by hockey game at Hershey :)
hockey game sounds splendid. . . and that’s right you did tell me — hope staining went well.
A little moxie goes a long way. :-)
why’d I have a feeling you’d like that. Happy Monday to you Tammy. Get it.
Ah, yes… everything is much better with a pal. I mean when we robbed that liquor store –er… Well, there was that time when my friend distracted this guy and then I –er… Oh! Wrong blog.
Yes, I think I would get further along in my own dreams of home improvement projects if I had a pal to work with. Yet, most of the time when I want to start a project, my hubby comes and takes it over. Could be that I don’t always finish projects. LOL
easy to start hard to finish! why don’t you say “Hubs, let’s work together.”? (oh wait you have a child unit) and you are too funny — everyone needs a partner in crime. right? right.
Could your daughter ask her friend where I can find a life size cutout of Pierce Brosnan? :) Great post jb!
this is quite interesting too: http://www.mizozo.com/weird/02/2011/23/man-confuses-peirce-brosnan-s-cutout-from-james-bo….html
I read the article on Saturday regarding the police being called on the Pierce Bronsan James Bond cut out! Throwing a Mamma Mia Party and thought it would be a hoot to have a cut out.
they have the Bieber at “Party City” … Brosnan might be a little more of an acquired taste but probably couldn’t hurt to check the website. and it looks like there is locations in FLA.
sounds like a blast.